What Is Counselling
Often doing this alone can seem overwhelming. However sharing it with someone in a safe, confidential and trusting environment can make it bearable. This is why counselling is becoming a much more common service for people to seek help from.
Counselling is not about expecting the counsellor to tell you what to do. Counselling is about helping you to find some answers of your own. I am not the expert of you. You are the expert of you. Often when life’s bumps and bruises come along we lose our expert voice. My job is to help you find it again.
In talking about it and having you share what you know about yourself and your situation with me, I can listen to you and notice what seems to be important to you. The wonderful thing is that through this kind of attention in which I reflect back to you what you have to said to me, you will usually end up with a lot more information about yourself and your situation than you had before you came. You will understand much more about what you’re feeling and what you’re reacting to. And in the process, your story will become much richer and you will have a much greater appreciation of yourself as the totally capable person you were actually born to be.
From there you can make your own plans. You will be fascinated at the ease with which you do this once you have the ‘bird’s eye’ view of yourself and your situation that the counselling process gives you.
Pathways Counseslling Services
I use a lot of different approaches. I do a lot of listening but I also ask a lot of questions, the answering of which helps both you and me to get a better view of you and your situation. Sometimes I get you to act out different people in your situation. Other times I get you to act out a situation between the part of you that wants something and the part of you that does not want it.
Sometimes you will get a better perspective if you draw or if you write in a journal. Writing a letter to yourself or to others (not necessarily to be sent) can be really helpful in increasing your perspective and bringing relief and release from things that were previously locked up inside of you.
Often, unpleasant emotions show up in your body somewhere. Becoming aware of this is important. Using simple ways of unlocking them can be very releasing. It can result in freeing your brain from the anxiety that unpleasant physical symptoms impose and allowing it to deal with your actual problems.
Certainly having a range of approaches means that I can tailor my input into your journey to meet your specific style and needs. Always however I am respectful of you and your well-being. You will always have the choice of whether to participate or not. Often we find it difficult or simply don’t want to do things that feel unfamiliar. If that’s the case it’s probably worth thinking and talking about why you don’t want to do a particular thing.
Always confidentiality is central. I will not be discussing you with anyone else unless I have your written permission. If for example it should become helpful to talk with your doctor, ideally the conversation would be held in front of you. I have a supervisor who I discuss things with as needs arise and she too is sworn to confidentiality. In fact she will not even know your name. Sometimes however situations arise in which there are safety issues involved. At such times it may become pertinent to involve somebody else who is able to help in a more specialised way. As always you are central to the process and your input is important.
If you are still wondering whether the style of counseling I offer would be of help to you, then please give me a call and we can discuss this further my number is 07-3781828