Attention to your relationship with yourself can take a variety of forms. Keeping short accounts with yourself is one of these i.e. regularly taking time to pause and notice your emotions and thought patterns and assessing how you are matching up with what you know to be your ‘best self’. Clearly if you are not being true to your best self you cannot hope to present your most authentic image to the world – which is the most positively powerful you.
This is a challenge to all of us at various times and some seasons in our lives will be more difficult than others. A good practical technique for ensuring a clear relationship with yourself is to think of yourself as being made up of parts. You can organise those parts in your mind in a number of different ways. One way would be to isolate a part of you that you like – for example, your courageous part. A way to make that part solid and to test its strength would be to have that part speak to your weak part that is not courageous. Then have that weak part speak back about how it feels and let the conversation continue until the outcome matches what you know to be in keeping with your best self. Then you will be able to truly tell yourself that you are reacting in a way that is honouring of your best self.
There is no substitute for truth in the innermost parts. If we want to be our most effective selves then making our relationship with ourselves our first priority will be an investment that will continue to pay huge dividends for as long as we live.